You’ve heard the saying, “The grass is always greener over the septic tank?” Well, it’s true. Finding happiness comes with loving what you already have, and appreciating the things that come into your life, be it good or bad.
Is finding happiness possible when bad things happen?
The difference between good and bad is your attitude, past experiences, and pre-conceived notions derived from other people’s bad experiences. Believe it or not, there is good and bad in each and every thing. One cannot exist without the other. Bad things, however, are so much easier for us to see and recognize. This is because they are easier to feel, see, hear, and believe. Concentrating on negative things prevents us from finding happiness.
Why? Because negativity vibrates at a much lower frequency, which requires less energy. Humans are inherently lazy beings. We tend to do what comes easy. Positive emotions require us to vibrate at a higher frequency, thus opening us up to more positive emotions. As you can see from the emotional ladder on the right, there are far more negative emotions than there are positive ones.
If you are feeling fear, grief, depression, disempowerment, or despair, you cannot immediately start to feel hope and contentment without first rising up the ladder and feeling one or more of the emotions in between. For example, someone who is overwhelmed feels frustration, then perhaps boredom, before feeling content or hope for a desired outcome. If you are familiar with this ladder, you will begin to understand why it is so challenging to rise above feeling depressed.
The ladder also works the other way around. Let’s say that one day you feel happy. Then, something happens that has you doubting that happiness—you become pessimistic. Next, you start to feel irritated, quickly followed by disappointment, blame and anger, hatred, and finally ending with guilt and despair.
Unfortunately, it is easier and often quicker to slide down the ladder than it is to climb up—such is life, yeah?
The trick is to recognize that emotion that starts you on the downward spiral and curb it before it drags you down the rungs. As soon as you find yourself feeling pessimistic or bored, counter that feeling with something that makes you feel content or hopeful. This is the key to finding happiness and holding on to it.
Have you ever spent some time with a person who is angry, frustrated, depressed, or completely unenthusiastic about life in general? Do you feel them zap your energy like a huge black void? This is because they are tapping into your energy field like a drowning person who clings to the one who is trying to save them. Eventually, they will pull you down with them.
Okay, so, how do you protect yourself and raise your vibration so that more good things come your way? The answer is easy but the implementation takes time, effort, and diligence.
Stop watching the news. Nothing will bring you down faster than bad news. Why do you think they advertise anti-depressants, antacid drugs, and high blood pressure medication during the news casts?
Hang around people you admire and who make you feel good. If you’re forced to be around negative people, counter their negativity with something opposite. For example, you’re in a car with a driver who is yelling and cursing at everyone in his path. Remind the person that the other driver may have an impairment of sorts, or may be having a particularly bad day and has other things on his mind. Try and turn your companion’s anger into compassion. It’s hard to be angry at someone who tugs on your heart strings. It may not work, but it will make you feel better for trying.
Think about all the wonderful things that you have, not so much about the things you need or don’t have. Be grateful for everything that comes into your life, for every moment has a purpose. If you missed a traffic light and are now late for your appointment, be grateful that you will arrive safe. That small delay may have saved you from a much worser alternative.
Appreciate others. Imagine what a lonely place this world would be if they all disappeared. Learning to vibrate at a higher frequency is a difficult skill to achieve, but once you do, finding happiness will become a habit and you will discover possibilities that by far exceed your expectations.
For all things be grateful and live as if you have nothing to lose.